I have set up a GoFundMe page to help my family and I to avoid eviction and
homelessness. We have an eviction date of June 1st 2013.
We have until then to secure financing and the associated expenses so
that we can stay in our home or to find somewhere to go. We have a
lead on possible financing, with some money to put toward it. But
there are so many extra expenses that keep cropping up, and we really
need to be ready for anything.
My Story:
Some
moments change your life forever. They sneak up behind you unnoticed,
and steal from you the life that was, until that moment, all that you
knew. We've all had them. One of my moments was in October of 2000.
What started out as a typical evening, dinner, putting the kids to
bed, planning a Halloween party, ended with my husband in prison, my
family without an income, and my world shattered like so much glass
around my bare feet. My husband of ten years had been sexually
abusing our daughter. He went to prison for 12 years, leaving us with
no income, and me with no degree, no job skills, social phobia, panic
disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, and a deep, black
depression, having to care for my two children and their anxiety and
PTSD on my own.
So
for the next eight years, I paid the bills with money from SSI
disability that my children and I received. My daughter struggled
with OCD, ADD, and PTSD, and my son, despite visits to specialists in
Boston at Children's Hospital and NEMC, could not get a specific
diagnosis for his learning disability. But in late June of 2008, our
clothes dryer caught fire, destroying PVC pipes and wiring, leaving
us without power, telephone and water.
We
spent the first few days with friends and family, and the next five
months in a Super 8 motel. Our homeowners' insurance was through
Liberty Mutual. Their policy is that the customer has to pay for
everything up front, and then they will reimburse you for whatever
you spend. Well, that strategy might work well for the typical middle
class person, but for a low-income family without credit cards, it's
unrealistic. We couldn't even pay for a night in the motel. Liberty
Mutual advanced us a couple of hundred dollars, though, which worked
at first.
But
the longer we were there and unable to cook anything beyond
microwaved food, the more difficult it was. I couldn't pay the
regular bills, feed the family and pay the motel bill at the same
time. The front desk clerk didn't speak much English, and even though
the desk manager and I both asked him not to charge me until I told
him that the reimbursement money from Liberty Mutual was in my debit
account, he kept charging me anyway. The owner even explained it to
him in his native Indian, but apparently he still didn't understand.
So he ran up hundreds of dollars worth of overdraft fees on my
account. By the time we left the motel, we had fallen so far behind
on the mortgage that they were threatening foreclosure.
So
over the next few months, we worked with the mortgage company on an
adjustment. Everything seemed to be going well, until they would only
accept a down payment through Western Union. My bank wouldn't allow a
Western Union transfer that large unless I did it at the bank in
person. So the guy on the phone at the mortgage company, Ocwen, told
me to fax them the paperwork and send the money as soon as I could. I
faxed the paperwork. But at this point, I was so emotionally and
physically drained that I just couldn't get to the bank immediately,
and I missed a deadline, which they'd never mentioned. They voided
the adjustment and started a new one, but meanwhile they continued
the foreclosure. So the foreclosure went through before the
adjustment did, they auctioned the house, and MassHousing bought it.
This was in April of 2010.
Through
all of this, Liberty Mutual wouldn't cut a check for the repairs
without Ocwen's name on it as an additional payee. And Ocwen insisted
that in order to cash it, I would have to sign it over to them. So
the check went uncashed and the repairs went undone. Since then,
we've been trying to work with MassHousing to get a mortgage and get
the repairs done. We were approved for a loan, but since the repairs
hadn't been done, we couldn't get insurance, and we couldn't close.
MassHousing didn't want to spend money to do repairs. Meanwhile,
without maintenance, the main roof and the porch roof began to leak.
The leak is so bad that it's damaging the interior at this point.
Last
fall we managed to get a check without Ocwen's name on it, but by
then the bank that had previously approved us had stopped that
particular loan program, and had nothing to offer us. So we searched
for alternative loans. We found the USDA Rural Housing Loan program,
and we've been going through the application process. But apparently
it's not going quickly enough for MassHousing. So they took us to
court and had us sign an agreement to make an offer by the end of
April or move out June 1st. We made an offer, but they
rejected it out of hand because they didn't think we would get
funding soon enough for their liking.
Meanwhile,
my son has FINALLY gotten a solid diagnosis of Anxiety, ADHD, and
Pervasive Developmental Disorder – Not Otherwise Specified
(PDD-NOS). PPD-NOS is an autism spectrum disorder, and is sometimes
referred to as “atypical autism” because it doesn't quite fit the
diagnostic criteria for typical autism. Also, my daughter's best
friend's family was evicted from their apartment, so she and her pets
have been living with us.
So
this is where we are now. Our options are limited. Since I do have a
lead on a possible loan source, staying here might be a possibility
after all. Otherwise, we need to find an apartment here, or possibly
move out to the SF East Bay area, where we have family, and find an
apartment there. Neither apartment situation is ideal, and both would
likely require re-homing pets. My daughter has two cats, and her
friend has two cats and a dog. And neither area is likely to have
pet-friendly apartments large enough to fit all of us. Most of the
apartments in my area are 1- and 2-bedroom units. Larger apartments
tend to be in college towns, and generally out of our price range. I
have been on the waiting list for Section 8 housing for two years,
but the list is seven years long.
My
daughter is also scheduled for surgery this Friday. She has needed a
tonsillectomy for years, but her pediatricians refused to refer her
for one. At this point, her tonsils are so bad that they bleed every
day, and they fill with foul smelling tonsil stones.
As
you can see, we are in an emergency situation, and are in desperate
need to any kind of assistance anyone can offer.
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